How to communicate with a baby, a child, a teenager, how to raise him / her to be a happy, independent, successful person, how to build trusting relationships and resolve conflicts that arise at every stage of adulthood? It is unlikely that you will be able to find a magic panacea book that will be effective for everyone. However, the experience of teachers, psychologists, writers, involved moms and dads can help you overcome some difficulties and enjoy parenthood.
1. ABC of a happy family. 30 lessons of conscious upbringing, Mashkova, Salteev, Dubinnikov
Why read: learn what was not taught in school and university: being a parent
Why this book: Contains important knowledge in the field of child and family psychology. The authors are based on the works of world-renowned psychologists, educators and researchers – John Bowlby, Gary Chapman, Janusz Korczak, Lev Vygotsky, Lyudmila Petranovskaya, Julia Gippenreiter and others. Each chapter contains real-life examples and practical exercises
2. Naughty Sun, or How to Stop Shouting at Your Child, Sergei Chudiavchev
Why read: learn to punish without offending and motivate without spoiling
Why this book: Setting rules in the family is important, difficult, but possible! How? The latest discoveries in the field of developmental psychology help us, which will minimize conflicts at home. A book on how to achieve peace and order in your relationship with your children without resorting to quarrels, voices or beatings.
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3. Naughty sun, or How to understand what is in a teenager’s head. Great help for parents of teenagers
Why read: survive adolescence without losing trust and mutual understanding
Why this book: Teenagers need a special approach and knowledge of adolescent psychology. Adolescence is the very period when a child needs to grow up, and oh, how difficult it is.
On the shelves all the problems of adolescence are arranged by a family psychologist, candidate of medical sciences, father of a teenager. The author participated in the creation of the book by teenagers, who shared with their parents thoughts, problems, questions and experiences.
4. Wrapped childhood. Do not hide children from life, Elena Popova
Why read: Understand that overprotection and over-care harm the child
Why this book: A practicing family psychologist suggests that we think about what we want our children to see in 20-30 years? For what future are we preparing them? Because it is more difficult for those who grew up in a “sterile atmosphere” to adapt to the real world of adults, because they do not know how to overcome difficulties and reveal their potential.
And most importantly – what to change now in your parenting behavior to raise an independent person with sufficient self-esteem
5. End of patience. How to achieve child obedience, Irina Terentyeva
Why read: learn how to deal with conflicts with children of all ages
Why this book: Child disobedience is a real headache and the cause of the nervous contractions of most parents’s eyes. Does the child ignore your requests, explode, do everything in your stubbornness, always quarrel or even be rude?
What does it mean for a child to “disobey”? Is he doing something wrong or just not the way we want him to be?
The book helps not only to identify the causes of disobedience and to establish communication with the child, but also to understand himself (herself).
6. Too bad my parents didn’t know that, Philippa Perry
Why read: Become a friend to the child, having dealt with his “cockroaches”
Why this book: We are accustomed to passing on parenting methods from generation to generation without questioning whether they are all correct.
The author does not trample on these foundations, but suggests that we think about how the childhood of the parents themselves now affects the relationship with their children, how important it is to understand and accept the child’s opinion and feelings, how to better overcome and to avoid conflicts with children
7 most valuable, Madeleine Levin
Why read: to avoid the struggle for success and to raise happy children
Why this book: Helps to understand questions such as: Why does the child not have friends? What should I do if my child gets a bad grade? What do children lose in the process of striving for their success? What skills will help a child become successful?
8. How to speak so that children can listen, how to listen so that children can speak, Faber, Mazlish
Why read: look at the world through a child’s eyes, learn to listen and listen
Why this book: This is not an inspirational book, nor a book for thought, but a book with specific recommendations for interacting with children.
It will be difficult for someone to break their stereotypes, others will say that the proposed methods are very foreign to our usual training methods, but someone will start acting.
The material requires careful reading and analysis, and the gradual application of the advice in practice.
9. Secret support. Attachment to the life of a child, Lyudmila Petranovskaya
Why read: understand how parental love and care are supportive of the child
Why this book: Psychologist Petranovskaya explains in detail why the presence in the life of a child of an adult who will always come to the rescue is the key to a happy childhood, and indeed a lifetime.
Want to learn how parent-child relationships determine a person’s personality and how to build them without creating complexities, fears and other negative consequences?
The author will guide you through all the crises and difficult stages from birth to 15 years and will offer you different models of behavior.
10. If it is difficult with a child, Lyudmila Petranovskaya
Why read: to find out that the child is not doing “evil!”, But then why not obey?
Why this book: The author gives the methodology “7 steps to correct difficult behavior” and also explains why in the process of education it is important to use the characteristics of the child’s temperament and not to fight them, to take into account age and not to demand the impossible , why it is important to talk to your son or daughter in the communication process: explain, say, ask questions.
Read useful books and do not forget: “Children who are not loved become adults who can not love”. Love your children!